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Shame vs. Guilt: Margaret Light explains the difference between these two often confused emotions. Guilt is about feeling bad for doing something wrong, while shame is about feeling like a bad person. Guilt can motivate change, but shame can lead to negative self-critical thoughts and harm relationships.

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  • The difference between shame and guilt (00:01:30) 
  • Personal experience with shame (00:03:28)
  • Challenging negative beliefs (00:06:22) 
  • Shame and Guilt (00:08:18) Discussion on the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame affects individuals in their day-to-day lives.
  • Childhood Experiences of Shame (00:09:23) 
  • Sharing and Naming Shame (00:12:15) 
  • Recognizing and Understanding Shame (00:15:34)
  • Dealing with Shame and Self-Compassion (00:18:38) 
  • Leaning into Shame and Seeking External Validation (00:21:31) 
  • The impact of shame on individuals (00:25:55) 
  • Creating a shame-filled environment (00:26:16)
  • The connection between self-talk and how we treat others (00:27:30) 
  • Shame and Substance Use (00:31:00) 
  • The Shame Spiral (00:32:22) 
  • Window of Tolerance and Coping Strategies (00:34:19) 
  • Regulating Your System (00:38:45) 
  • Regulating Others (00:40:55)
  • Guilt vs. Shame (00:44:27) 
  • Recognizing and not internalizing feedback (00:48:14)
  • Healthy guilt vs shame in a professional setting (00:51:07) 
  • The importance of relationships with clients (00:53:57) 
  • The fascination with understanding human behavior (00:55:00)

 

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      It always amazes me when I hear about a technician who quits one repair shop to go work at another shop for less money. I know you have heard of this too, and you’ve probably asked yourself, “Can this be true? And Why?” The answer rests within the culture of the company. More specifically, the boss, manager, or a toxic work environment literally pushed the technician out the door.
      While money and benefits tend to attract people to a company, it won’t keep them there. When a technician begins to look over the fence for greener grass, that is usually a sign that something is wrong within the workplace. It also means that his or her heart is probably already gone. If the issue is not resolved, no amount of money will keep that technician for the long term. The heart is always the first to leave. The last thing that leaves is the technician’s toolbox.
      Shop owners: Focus more on employee retention than acquisition. This is not to say that you should not be constantly recruiting. You should. What it does means is that once you hire someone, your job isn’t over, that’s when it begins. Get to know your technicians. Build strong relationships. Have frequent one-on-ones. Engage in meaningful conversation. Find what truly motivates your technicians. You may be surprised that while money is a motivator, it’s usually not the prime motivator.
      One last thing; the cost of technician turnover can be financially devastating. It also affects shop morale. Do all you can to create a workplace where technicians feel they are respected, recognized, and know that their work contributes to the overall success of the company. This will lead to improved morale and team spirit. Remember, when you see a technician’s toolbox rolling out of the bay on its way to another shop, the heart was most likely gone long before that.
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